The city my friend and I live in had just gotten a minor league hockey team, and we were really excited, so we got tickets for the home opener. My apologize in advance for some of the language I'm going to have to use. In October of 2015, my friend raped me, I would like to share my story, I have never shared this story with anyone, even though I have replayed it in my mind several times a day since then. This is true no matter whether you identify as male, female, both, or neither. If you are transgender, genderqueer, or intersex, you're always welcome to post here. Our focus is always on the needs of the individual survivor, and his family or friends. Those are worthwhile conversations to have, but it's not why r/MenGetRapedToo exists. This isn't a sub for political discussions of sexual violence. For bona fide inquirers, approval will normally be given. If you wish to solicit participation in studies, surveys, publication projects, or media stories, please contact the moderators before posting. Please be compassionate think about your words before clicking "submit" and remember that we are all human. Please do not trivialize the experience of any survivor. All sexual violence, against men, women or children, is equally intolerable. If you have committed sexual violence, we commend your decision to seek to change. It is not a place for abstract debate, political discussion, or victim-blaming. Our sub exists to provide support to those who need it. Repeated infractions may lead to a permanent ban. Any comments contrary to the spirit and purpose of the sub will be removed. It does not diminish them, and they should not be ashamed.Īny stories, experiences or information you wish to share are welcome here.
They can help survivors of both rape and domestic violence, whether it's ended or it's still continuing. Friends and family of survivors are welcome to post on MenGetRapedToo, but may cross-post to secondary_survivors if they want even more replies. If you don't mention there that you're male, people might not realize it. Please note: Most posters there are women. If you want quick responses, you may cross-post both to there and to our sub-Reddit.
The /r/MensLib Resources Guide guide has links to some agencies for male victims of sexual violence in the U.S. Medical cards for victims of sexual assault: male practitioner preferred (PDF). Self-care strategies for men after rape or sexual assault (PDF). Part 2: for partners, family, and friends.When A Man Is Raped: A Survival Guide (PDF).At-home tests also work well.īefore phoning a rape crisis center, you may want to read this. You can get confidential testing for HIV and other infections, both in the US and elsewhere. Read about victims' compensation, counseling, and other matters.Įven if you were raped fifty years ago, some of the above options are still open to you.Or file a police report, without pursuing charges.Or sue for money, in small-claims court or elsewhere.Get the rapist moved to a different work team or school class.The evidence may be helpful if you might one day ever want to:.If you want to preserve all evidence, keep some urine in your bladder for the urine test don't shower, eat, drink, or defecate and see here.Ask a doctor or nurse to collect DNA evidence of the rape.
Get pills to prevent infections such as chlamydia and HIV.If you have been raped, you might want to: Everyone is welcome to post and comment here, including both men and women. This sub-Reddit is for sharing experiences, sharing awareness, and overcoming the stigma around sexual assault of men and boys.